A Rite of Passage for Mothers
As we travel this path of mothering,
what is the medicine we need?
Join us for a 4 day retreat in the beautiful Byron Hinterland designed to support you to explore what the journey as mother means to you, to experience deep rest and connection in circle with other mothers, sisters, elders, and discover ways to revalue and recenter your needs, your creativity, and your joy toward reclaiming your own unique journey of mothering.
Together we discover the phases of our journey and explore how the the ideals of motherhood
can disconnect and deplete us, and impact our beliefs about ourselves. Instead of the constant striving to do it all, we give birth to ourselves and our unique journey by allowing ourselves to feel all the feelings, practice attunement to our needs, and honouring your mothering journey.
When we compassionately inquire into what being a mother asks of us personally, socially and culturally, we may realise that we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves as mothers, and feel that ever present pressure to be the ‘perfect mother'.
The social and cultural ideals enshrined in motherhood can impact our journey from the birth of our children through to their adolescence and adulthood, leaving us at times feeling overwhelmed and isolated, often in cycles of exhaustion, anger, guilt and shame on repeat. Many of us have experienced our mothering in isolation often without support or connection with family, friends or community.
Without an understanding of the transformations within matrescence (our mothering journey) we can feel unsupported, unseen and unacknowledged in the tremendous changes we are experiencing.
On this retreat we will:
Rest and reconnect with our needs
Find connection, bravery and laughter with other mothers
Gain tools to support your nervous system
Unpack the 'perfect mother' myth and explore the taboo feelings of motherhood
Acknowledge the grief of mothering in a world in crisis
Connect to boundaries as radical self care
Allow your own wisdom to integrate and unfold...
Our aim on this retreat is to support you to discover the vision you have for your own journey of mothering.
A note about 'mother' inclusivity...
Acknowledging diversity of mothering and the journey of matrescence is a foundation of my work with mothers. It is key to how we reclaim the act of mothering for each of us, our families and communities, and the wider web of kinship on our animate earth. If you are involved in the care work of raising and supporting children, or you are a mother who identifies outside the rules of patriarchal motherhood (with an identity other than a white, cis-gendered, heterosexual, biological, physically able mother) please know that you are welcome here.
Rested, nourished, and connected Mothers
is the medicine we all need.
Dr. Rhiarne Pronk-Scholes
Clinical Family Psychologist
Rhiarne has extensive experience working with children, adolescents, adults and families regarding a range of issues. She has 20 years experience working across many settings and is a co-founder of a private practice clinic “The Family Wellbeing Hub” on the Gold Coast. A large focus of Dr Rhiarne’s work has also been on parenting support. She is also very passionate about supporting mothers through the early years of motherhood, with this stage known as “Matrescence”. Being a mother of 3 young children herself, Dr Rhiarne can certainly relate to these challenges. Unfortunately our mothers don’t have a village around them to navigate the challenges and therapeutic support can be invaluable through this time. Dr Rhiarne takes pride in her client-centred, positive and collaborative approaches in therapy – aiming to keep it “as real as possible”.
Women’s Rites of Passage guide
Kamya tends the thresholds of life's transitions by creating handmade transformative rites of passage that acknowledge and celebrate the changes, cycles and stages of our lives.
From adolescence to healthy young adulthood, from patriarchal feminine to mature feminine, the metamorphosis of matrescence, and our crossing into and welcoming elderhood. Kamya is the head of women’s programmes at The Rites of Passage Institute, a Certified Motherhood Studies practitioner, Trauma Informed Space holder and co-hosts the Animate Mother podcast with Dr. Allison Davis. Her work is based in animist, feminist, earth honouring values.
Emma Louise Roger
Women's Yoga Specialist & Psychotherapist
Emma has practiced and trained in yoga for 25 years. She is the founder of Red Tent Yoga, a space dedicated for the feminine and specialises in yoga for women, especially pregnancy & mothers. As a mother of 2 teen daughters, Emma knows first hand the light, dark & seasons of motherhood. She is passionate about supporting women on their life journey so they can embrace the opportunities of growth that these transitions & rites of passages present. Emma is also a qualified Psychotherapist, Life Coach and Havening Practitioner for trauma.
Thirak studied Psychology in Australia and she is also a S.I.A.F. Certified Holistic Counselor in Europe. Thirak facilitates meditative therapies and leads meditation and self-development retreats (Path of Love Australia) and has worked in self-help programs for people with drug, alcohol, and eating disorders.
A family lawyer in Mexico, she left her law career in order to train at the Mystery School Association and the Gestalt Therapy School. With 21 years in the personal development and meditation fields, Thirak naturally gravitates toward working therapeutically with people and enjoys supporting people to reconnect with their aliveness and passion for life.
Our Planetary Mother Wound
We know that the transition into motherhood can often connect us to an awareness and deeper connection to the wider web of life. This expanded sense can sometimes lead to layers of anxiety about our children’s future, climate distress for the earth and for all our more than human kin. Maternal anxiety and eco-distress is a real thing and as we navigate pandemics, social and climate injustice, it is important to know that it makes sense to feel this way. And that you aren't alone in feeling the grief of mothering within a system that is not honouring all of life.
Together we can reimagine the archetypal Mother and recenter the Mature Feminine for
personal, cultural and planetary healing.
Unlearning the ‘good mother’ and mothering ourselves is revolutionary.
Tell me more about the programme...The programme flow is based on the Rites of Passage framework, and the content is focused on the issues that research and experience tell us that our 11-14 year old girls are navigating at this age: - Supporting our girls in the challenge of the need to 'fit in, to shift toward honouring our unique gifts and talents and being our authentic selves. - Friendships, including the dramas that so often start at this age, and exploring what friendship really is (outside of social media) as they step into their secondary school experience. - Unpacking the ‘good girl’ stereotypes that can keep us from regarding ourselves with kindness and compassion. - Boundaries and consent but in advocating for and speaking up for what we need. -Understanding our cycles, body changes and exploring our body image beliefs. We have mums only sessions to share and ask questions about the changes or challenges you are experiencing, we unpack some cultural beliefs about motherhood, support your communication strategies as your daughter moves into this next phase of adolescence, and look at what self care is for mothers of teens. We mix the sessions and fun activities across the 2.5 days, and overall this weekend is about time for you and your daughter to be together, to explore some topics, hear from and share with other mums and girls at the same age, and to have fun! Our aim is not to tell you how to parent, but to support you to trust yourself and her on this coming of age journey you are embarking on together. x
What is the camping / and site accomodation like?Our retreats are held at a retreat centre with an option of camping by bringing your own camping kit or booking to stay in one of our shared or private bell tents. We create a small camping village on site at Sacred Hearth Sanctuary to provide both nature connection and a sense of adventure in festival style bell tents . The camping site is set in a beautiful orchard and you can either bring your own separate camping kit or stay in a shared bell tent for you and your daughter to share with another mum & daughter pair, or hire a private bell tent for just the two of you. Our tents are already set up with Air Mattresses, Linens, Pillows and Blankets are all supplied for a hire fee of $220 inclusive per duo. You are welcome to bring your own sleeping bag, pillows/pillowcases if preferred. Hot Water bottles are available if needed! There are beautiful indoor bathrooms and toilets with plenty of hot water. The programme is held both indoors at the retreat centre group spaces and outdoors for activities.
What is included in the cost?The cost is per pair and includes the programme, accomodation, meals and refreshments for both mother and daughter. There is an additional fee for camping hire if you wish to use our tent accomodation. You can also choose to bring your own camping gear.
Who are the facilitators?The main facilitators on this programme will be: Kamya O’Keeffe, Founder of Life as Ritual and Senior Facilitator of Women’s and Mother’s Rites of Passage programmes and Women's Leadership Trainings . Kamya is a certified Motherhood studies practitioner and facilitates women's programmes with Sarah Durham Wilson (author of Maiden to Mother). Previously Head of Women's programmes at The Rites of Passage Institute. Tracey Burns, Teen and Parent Coach and Founder of Unstoppable Girls Eva King, Mother's Circle facilitator at The Rites of Passage Institute, and founder of a teen girls programme called The Self Love Club. Anja Nolte, WomenSpeak circle leader, Rites of Passage facilitator and Shine From Within youth mentor. Karin Lucia Gisler, Founder of Primal Wisdom and facilitator for girls and parents menstrual awareness and coming of age education. Suzy Gavey, Gestalt Psychotherapist and massage therapist on Embodiment practices for nervous system support and wellbeing. Emma Louise Roger, Red Tent Yoga on Embodiment practices for nervous system support and wellbeing.
Mother Medicine: Motherhood as a Rite of Passage
is a four day residential retreat in the tranquil Byron Hinterland
at the beautiful Sacred Hearth Sanctuary.
The retreat cost is $1800.00 per person and includes:
3 nights accomodation at the beautiful Sacred Hearth Sanctuary
all programme activities
opportunity for 1:1 support
healthy and nourishing meals over 4 days
all teas, coffee, beverages and snacks
Flights and transfers are not included but we can arrange transfers for you.
We also offer space to book in a massage if you wish.
x3 month payment plans are available at no additional charge.
If you have any questions about the retreat please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Please note in full transparency there are13 spots in total for this programme so if interested please hold your place by RSVP'ing below